Select Direct Connect Search type & it will show you your id no. But you need to find out what your friends id no.'s are. Once you know, you can type tht no. onto the box. For direct connecting it's best to try to make sure you & your friend have an available slot. So make sure you're not too busy upldlding & dwnlding at that time. It may even help if you both have Chat function enabled (Tools>Options>Chat & tick option box & press apply button.)