It helps if you both have available upld/dwnld slots (ie: not too busy.) Oh & enable Chat. Some more hints here: http://www.gnutellaforums.com/showth...threadid=30911 You might even try increasing upld slots if you still have problems. It helps it you're not firewalled. To find out do this test: Bug Report instructions & sample image If it says False then you're firewalled. Either due to your comp's firewalls or a NAT modem/router.