I'd still like to know why there are just 3 when I'm a leaf.

But I did figure out that when I click "Force IP", I then became an ultrapeer and now see tons of connections, and the statistic's file count is about 1.4 million right now. As you'd expect, Search is now working MUCH better.

Now I just gotta go read up on what this Force IP is actually doing... not quite sure why it is necessary since I opened up port 6346 in the cable/dsl router (without that open, I could still download but it would not let me "browse host" on myself even).