rwnugent I have spent a while trying to suss out your question which seems to be posted as a sub thread in the Bearshare forum and here under a different heading ... hense no reply. I'm tired, thinking a bit shakily and going to bed. search the forums with the search button ...if no luck start your own thread clearly titled and choose the correct forum.
I have one thought which is this.
Ensure all your iTunes tunes are in 1 folder, and share that folder. If your iTunes tunes are scattered around you will find things confusing. I am not quite sure how iTunes works on Windows, but on my Mac all my limewire tunes go into iTunes and I share selected iTunes subfolders.
The forum rules at the head of the forums are a useful guide on how to get the best from the forums.
Good night