Direct Connecitng is not always easy. If either of you are firewalled then it just won't happen. Do this test: Bug Report instructions & sample image Is the result True/False? If False then you're still firewalled which means you only have partial access. You both also need available upload & downld slots & bandwidth.

See How to use Magnet Links & Direct Connect

Magnet links is another method. Send a friend a link & once they dtart downlding or vice-versa, they can browse you. You can also browse them via the upload window.