Totally new at this stuff, not to mention....confused

Hope someone can help. I get connected but, limewire won't stay conncected

AAHHHHH! I'm not sure what router I have and I do not understand what a linksys is or if I should update firmware(what ever that is). I like Limewire and just want it to stay connected for more than a minute. My firewall says it's disabled thru windows. I don't show a firewall when I have Limewire running. I also do not get a zone pop up (read somewhere in your forums). I have mcafee and it doesn't have a firewall because I am cheap and do not want to pay for it. I currently have windows xp on my Hp computer at home. I am overwhelmed by the forum reguarding connections for limewire (actually printed out some of it). Can someone please email easy directions on how to fix this? Much appreciated

I think I might be better one on one with someone instead of reading all the different threads. Thanks