ok, been doing alot of the stuff that you linked me to. Tried the port forwarding but I cannot purchace that right now. So it could not do the router for me.

I think my problem might be, or at least part of my problem is with my firewall. When I add a port it keeps changing the IP to the name of my computer. Is that normal? There is no way to save it, no place to click "apply" or anything.
I will keep trying the fixes. Even though I havent made any real progress, I feel like I have to be getting closer.