Hiya...
If you have not changed the port in your settings, set her machine to the same one as yours...
If her machine still has the default installed port setup, then set yours to the same as hers.
This may cause you some 'connectivity' problems later within the full Gnutella Network.
A far better solution for you both would be to use an
ftp client.
Or, just an Ethernet cable if you two can get that close !!!
Have a look here >
http://www.gnutellaforums.com/tips-t...ful-links.html
Loads to view and consider, but it's probable that what you need is in there... Somewhere !!!