I also have been getting the "connecting to gnutella network" thing. It started happening a couple of days ago or I would be connected and then booted. So, I tried uninstalling old version
(BIG mistake). Then installed new version. Didn't work so I uninstalled new completely(deleted registry) and installed old version. Now, it seems to me when I first tried XOLOX i had to jump start it by adding hosts to host lists. The thing is I can't find host lists anymore, All the places that used to post them are gone(RIAA?). So, anyway I'm letting XOLOX run, sitting there doing whatever it is doing. I am behind router but it worked before w/o any tweaking so I have not tried that. Did try turning off proxy in IE but then I couldn't go online. lol Don't mind the ads except that stupid casino ad that kept crashing the program.
The trouble with ignorance is that it picks up confidence as it goes along.