[When i try to enter the suggested hosts in this forum like gnutella.hostscache.com:6346 , They stay in my host list for about 5 or 10 seconds, then disapear to be replaced by a random ip entered by the program.]

This is normal behaviour. You see, servers like gnutella.hostscache.com (and others) have only the purpose to support you with initial IP addresses of actual gnutella hosts you could perhaps connect to. So the appearing ip adress is not random; it should be the address of a 'real' gnutella node. Be patient while starting, give your servent time to establish some connections: 2-4 min will do. And remember that not every node will let you connect - some are firewalled, some are 'full'.

[I have a 56k modem and connect using aol (yuck) at the moment, ...]

Should be no problem ;).

If you are experiencing more troubles, ask again.

Greetings...