Ok I'll sound harsh but you gotta ask these questions to yourself Morticia:
1)if he likes women, why would he dislike porn?
2)why do you think he erases things so you not see after 5 years?
3)why are you so disturbate about porn and why do you not trust men?
My early diagnostic is that you are oppressive with him and you do not threat him as an equal individual, try to be less opressive you are not his mother for god's sake!
Bonne chance quand même