Just wondering why my friend cant find me. He can connect through IP and its ok. But how come he cant find my songs normally when obviosly other LW users can because I am getting hits!

Just wondering

You're getting hits but are you getting uploads?
Do you see a brick wall in front of the blue world icon at the bottom of LW?
It's not always easy finding another user. Sending a magnet link to your friend is the best way for you 2 to connect to each other. Once they have connected, they can browse you, & you can browse them via the upload window (monitor window.) How to use Magnet Links & Direct Connect

yer. i am getting uploads.
What do they mean?

It means people are uploading from you. Just as in the same way you downld from others. That's how the gnutella community works; people sharing with each other.