My fiance always uses limewire to download songs. And the other day I had limewire open and picked songs for a playlist for our son to listen to and minimized both programs for the rest of the time I was online. I never opened up the window for limewire after choosing the songs and didnt search period, not for songs or nothing. When I got offline I rightclicked the limewire and closed the program. When he got home he went on to download more songs and saw there was 4 or 5 incompleted file downloads for girl oral sex with other girls. He asked if it was me and I told him I hadnt searched at all. There was no search history either since I didnt search for anything. BUt yet they were there in the incomplete file folder! He got real mad saying i was lying, and we have been fighting since wednesday over this. I have had enough and went searching these forums for proof that I couldnt have downloaded them and found the same thing happened to many other people in the same way, their limewire was on idle online and they found porno downloading, or they were using it and saw it downloading also. I showed him but he thinks its all a lie and that somehow our computer is special and it COULDNT do it to ours. So therefore he thinks Im lying. I found a thread whereit said people will push thru stuff like that thru a open port or it is a reult of a worm or something. He then said he has looked up porno stuff before and I told him somehow something HE downloaded brought a way for this to come in. I found threads about it, but yet he still thinks Im lying. This has been a constant fight and I KNOW Im not crazy, I didnt even touch the search section! I went to library, clicked on songs, and minimized it. So WTH?? I have never been interested in other girls, I dont even have many girl friends since I dont trust other girls. And he should know me better but all that doesnt matter. He still thinks Im lying so Im here as a last resort to prove I didnt do it. I know its happened to other people and i KNOW it happened to our computer. I just dont understand. Does anyone have any insight on this?? I already went thru and put filters and blocks on whatever I could tomake sure it wont hapen again but since Im new to this Im hoping others will have clues also~ If you got this far thanks!! I really need your help!

do you have a firewall?

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I dont know.... we have mcafee but it keeps telling me its not genuine and I have to buy the actual one. So we dont have that. So maybe we dont have a firewall, Im not sure what that is...

well...a firewall is a necessary component of online activities...studies show that on average a computer without a firewall lasts less than 20 minutes before another person (read hacker) takes control of the machine...simply put a firewall is a virtual wall that restricts communications to those approved by the user...it also contains definitions of current exploits so that it can block them...

I'm not informed about McAffe products but it does sound like at best your software is operating at restricted capabilities...if it is a warez product (i.e. downloaded/stolen software) and has been detected as such then its probably not working at all...

so it is possible that you have been hacked and said files placed in your queue...

what I wonder about is this angry reaction by your mate...I mean really, that sounds totally out of wack for a male to be so disturbed at this type of porn...here you live in one of the biggest cities of sin and this is his reaction?...you are obviously not bible thumping maniacs (since you are downloading) yet he acts like one...hmmmmmm....maybe you all need to see a counselor....

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He said if I looked at it thats not the problem, he said lying about it is the problem. Which I understand, but I DIDNT download it. Theres a trust thing going on right now anyway for months. He just doesnt believe anything I say cuse I lied about something 7 months ago and hes taken it farther then it should have been. So its not the porn itself but the fact he *thinks* Im lying. I wouldnt be sitting here wasting my time if I was lying. I would dismiss it and act like I didnt care what he thought. But I dont want him thinking THIS about me. That bothers me since its so not true. Im pregnant with our third child and have been with him almost 10 years. You would think if I had interest in girls he would have known something was up years ago. BUt since i never would even think about that this is really stupid to me and Im trying to clear my name. Im tired of the fighting and just want him to see he is wrong. He doesnt think anyone can put stuff on your computer without you downloading it. I showed him thats wrong but he thinks its bulls**t anyway and that it cant happen. Although I have read about that plenty on here and we stopped using Kazaa years ago cuse it brought in alot of viruses. He just doesnt think this can happen so Im here to prove him wrong~ Thanks for explaining whats a firewall. i heard of them but didnt know what they were exactly~ I dont know whats up with the mcafee, we got this computer from someone else and it had stuff already on it and that was one of them. Maybe they downloaded it wrong or copied it. I dont know~~

Its such a shame that such a small thing has caused such a big misunderstanding,, but yes its true sometimes viruses can get in if pushed through especially since you dont have a firewall,, I dont know which operating system you are using, but Windows does have inbuilt firewalls which are pretty good,, do you use windows xp,, it has one all you need to do is turn it on,,, and even if you dont, if you are using windows, try downloading zonealarm (do a google search ) and you can download it.. the basic version is free.. and is sufficient and will even let you know if someone is trying to get into ur system, or if any programme (software) is trying to access the internet like your outlook mail box for e.g.,,, and dont bother about the antivirus thingie,, just uninstall it, and download AVG antivirus which is really good and free,, you can google that too,,firewall + antivirus will protect you from any such intrusions ..

And please tell your husband that often viruses take the name of a popular file and replicate in the gnutella network,, you see limewire works like this every computer connected online is a server and things can be downloaded and uploaded from it, its like that so if your comp is unprotected than things can get in,, it is possible,, you have to be careful downloading music too.. sometime viruses can masquerade as that too.. you have to see the file size does it look authentic.

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It's obvious that mami2mininmino problem is nothing to do with computers, phantom downloads or anything technical, it is to do with "trust". Simply put, her partner does not trust her anymore and if it was not this "computer problem" it would be something else. You just can't reason with someone who is not prepared to be reasonable.

Not only that, I get the sense that mami2mininmino partner maybe looking for a reason to break up with her or is possibly angry that she is pregnant again. Either way, I get the feeling that she knows the real reason for this disagreement but is not yet ready to admit it to herself.

Therefore, and without any shadow of a doubt, I agree 100% with Peerless, this couple is in desperate need of counselling.


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Very true.... I guess the problem lies elsewhere