like i said, i try to download stuff and it just says "connecting..." and stays like that and never changes...what am i doing wrong?

It maybe caused by fake files: Fake files showing up in search results

Try the suggestions in this thread: Problems with the search

Also see: How to find music(and videos)

Are you fully connected to the network? Do you have green or blue connection bars in the lower left corner? Do you see a brickwall in front of the globe icon?

Could you supply your details? System details - help us to help you -> Provide these details when you post!!!

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