hi a got a share file set up but my friend cant find the songs on here :S any help much appriciated

Hi,
Is the file in a folder called 'Individually Shared Files'? If it is, then your friend won't be able to access it when browsing you or directly connecting to you.
If that is the case, your friend will simply have to perform a search for your file under 'All Types' and hopefully they'll find it there.