Hey guys,
im back with my tale between my legs, so to speak...!
Firstly my appologies for just thinking that you guys will just answer any post.. and for not doing my own groundwork to try and fix my problem...!
Anyway, i have read through quite a bit of the forum and guess what... im still deep in S**T...!
So here goes, this is what i have done so far..

My system is:
1. vista
2. eset
3. 4 gig ram
4. 160 hd
5. broad band
6. adsl 2/2 + router (planet) 24 mbps
7. house
8 . LW 5.6
9. EUnetadsl
10. Test ok (without lw activated)
11. no
12. new
13. dont think so (brick wall)
14. i think upnp enabled
15. eset
16. serbia
17. i reinstalled java to 6.14 then to 6.15

OK Thats my system.

Here is what ive done so far:
1. tried with the FW shut down
2. reinstalled LW
3. changed port setting several times
4. deleted gnutella.net
5. preferences: i have a different problem as i cannot unhide folders with my system.. i think it is bug or something...? i set it to show hidden folders and as soon as i enable and ok, it automatically (defaults) back to hidden... so this i havent tried...
basically, i am just trying everything and anything i can, but without really knowing what the hell im doing...!

iI've learned my lesson so I hope that you guys will show some pitty on me now... and HELP me...!