Did you use your browser to try to log into your router? Check the default ip address for Linksys & type it into your browser.
ie: you can log in by typing 192.168.1.1 into the address bar of your router.

ok I am starting to get there very very slowly

I figured out that my IP is 192.168.15.1 no other one on it, when I type that into my internet browser I get all kinds of different stuff, and I'm not sure exactly what it is that I am looking for.

Ok I edited this, I finally figured it out, I was typing it in search and not the browser, it's still early in the morning for me LOL, but I enabled the UpNp setting and saved it, tried lime wire again, and still get stuck on the same thing, I get to the Setup FireWall page in set up and it does nothing, it doesn't give me options to continue or go back or finish or anything, the only thing that is in the box is the information about enabling firewalls for LW the three pictures as examples and that is the end of the box, no other buttons to move on or go back or anything.