I can't get rid of a download. I selected all in the download and the orgasm download that is at the top of every search won't let me delete it. Is it infected or getting my info? How do I get rid of it?

Try unsharing it first, right-click & choose stop sharing. Also check these tips Incomplete Download File won't delete at all (click on link)

i am in same deep **** i deleted my lime wire songs but i cant play them now in itunes

You can delete files from LW's library after they've been added to the iTunes library (remember that the 'limewire tunes' playlist in iTunes doesn't contain the music files) as long as the file is still saved somewhere on your computer. If you don't want the files in LW's library any more, you can save them into a different folder somewhere (make a new folder).
Or, in iTunes go Edit > Preferences > Advanced. Tick the box to copy files to iTunes Music folder when adding to library > ok. Now songs will be saved to your iTunes Music folder when you add them to the iTunes library & you can delete those files from LW's library.
Adding Content to iTunes
When you delete from LW's library - use the option to send files to the recycle bin... that way, you can restore the files if you run into problems!!

If you just delete files from LW's library & don't make sure that they're saved somewhere on your computer - iTunes won't be able to find the files & then you'll see the ! symbol

Also check out this thread for more general info.
How to transfer music to my iPod (& iTunes)