XoloX wont disconnect ?!

After I close XoloX and reboot, it seems like XoloX or something trying to connect to my computer. The lights on my cable modem are blinking steadily. Do a netstat and I get three or four Time wait connections ?

Starting up XoloX again I get three or four uploads starting up right away.

This is getting somewhat irritating, the little lights in my tray that show my uploading and downloading action are on solid like IM connected and downloading something.

How can I stop these servers from pinging me. They can just wait til I reconnect or find someone else.
There must be away besides unplugging my cable modem.

Please respond ASAP