is there any way to turn off file sharing? I tried removing my shared directory but it defaults to my download directory. And is there a way to see what files you are uploding to people? thanks

You can turn off sharing by File->Settings->User Interface->Shared Files Pages->Share Files, or using the context menu on the shared files page.

You can see the files people are grabbing from you on the connections page (they will have a type= Upload), and also by looking at the Reqs column in the Shared Files page.

-Jason